This morning I woke up and I had a pretty engaging conversation with the Most High along with meditating. Afterwards, I prepared to go for an early morning walk on the trail. Nothing really could prepare me for a bizarre but pleasant encounter. With so many walkers, joggers, roller bladders, bikers it is not that difficult to not notice who has their sights on you. When I am walking, I usually am in a zone with the Ipod going strong to keep me moving to some very intense music. Imagine after the second time around, having a guy that resembles this guy, running toward you serenading you…..singing a classic, “A Ribbon In The Sky” by Stevie Wonder. Now, I am thinking…I don’t know this guy so this serenade is not for me, however, as I am looking around, I was the only one in the vicinity. Him still approaching me coming from the other side of the trail…..the moment of truth…he was serenading me…..and he had this cheesy smile on his face……he extended his hand out to me and introduced himself as Lenox. I replied, “Hello, Michelle”.
Then he said, I know….weird for somebody to be serenading someone they do not know…. I’m thinking, “Yes” but I replied, “Not really”. Quietly to myself, thinking, as I recall this has happened to me before many years ago, in downtown Detroit, a man saw me standing downtown, he was all the way on the other side and I never saw him either until he got up close and personal and he serenaded me with the same song, “A Ribbon in the Sky” by Stevie Wonder. As with this same situation, I never saw this guy coming. While talking to him, I had all kinds of things going on in my head…..I am sweaty, no make-up, I have a scarf on my head, etc….and I got all this physically fit gorgeousness standing in front of me…..LAWD, have mercy!
We continued to walk and talk and the conversation was quite enjoyable..I could tell he had a sense of humor…almost quite silly but cute…..there were a lot of chuckles shared between us, this went on for at least 30 minutes. After that the conversation came to a close; but he left me with some parting sweet words and encouragement. Some of what he said, “Ms. Michelle” keep up the excellent work your making a lot of progress. He further went on to say, if you have them, start lifting weights as much as you can to work your arms…..and he gave me that buddy touch on the shoulder like he has known me for years…..Then he simply, said, “I’ll see you around” and left. For a brief, moment I thought, “How Long has he been watching me, to know that I have been making progress? Then I sort of just threw the rest of my thoughts away and began focusing on what this encounter meant, for this is the second guy that I have met on this trail.
Now most women would have thought, this man wants me. Me on the other hand, I have a different response to things like this, especially since I have been on this spiritual journey and life of transformation mind, body and soul. This encounter meant something totally different. As always, I look at the symbolism in the moment. I lay down all the facts such as:
A stranger but gorgeous man, a song – “A Ribbon in the Sky” a classic by Stevie Wonder, walking and talking with me, offering me encouragement with my efforts, giving me praise, etc….I didn’t stop here. I was compelled to find the lyrics to “A Ribbon in the Sky”. The lyrics are below:
So that you too will understand
There’s a ribbon in the sky for our love
Do…Do…
Do Do Do Do Do…
HMM HMM…
This is not a coincidence
And far more than a lucky chance
But what is that was always meant
Is our ribbon in the sky for our love, love
We can’t lose with God on our side
We’ll find strength in each tear we cry
From now on it will be you and I
And our ribbon in the sky
Ribbon in the sky
A ribbon in the sky for our love.
When I read the lyrics to the song; tears began to flow down my face. When you think about this entire encounter it was every bit of lovely. Then this made me think about; That when a man finds a wife; that man should already be equipped to love, encourage, protect, praise, honor, respect, as God does. Years ago, I decided that, while dating, that I would not answer the question, “What are you looking for in a relationship?” This question gives people permission to try and deceive us. The moment we tell them what we are looking for, they become exactly that, therefore not presenting their true selves. If a man asked me what I was looking for in a relationship then right away, I knew perhaps he wasn’t the one; for a man with good intentions already knows how he wants and is capable of loving you; offering you only the wonderful qualities he already owns.
Now back on subject, this encounter was God’s message to me about how the love he has ordained to be in my life will come to me; pay attention to the lyrics in the song: “This is not a coincidence” and “Far more than a lucky chance” “But what is this was always meant”. My heart is melting right about now….God sure does know how to douse your spirit with love. I especially love this part of the song, “We can’t lose with God on our side”. This one line is saying everything that needs to be said. When God ordains a union it doesn’t matter how many people their are who don’t like it….there can’t be anything done about it, other than, watch these two people love each other.
The other message I got from this encounter is Love will recognize you in your rarest form; sweat and all. This man was a stranger and straight-up gorgeous; but my concern shifted directly on my appearance; but he was not bothered by that he knew I had been walking and sweating, and approached me anyway. That is how love should approach you; for who you are. Love will look past the exterior and reach deep and look at the interior. Yeah….! That’s what love does; accepts you for who you are.
I want to close by offering some encouragement to my Plus Size Mavericks and Divas; I am still plus size; but for me I am a work in progress, and what I am doing for myself is not to gain the attention of a man. The transformation that is taking place in my life is a process, and it is something that I want to do for me. I want to also say, beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and just because a guy is physically fit and your deemed not to be; it doesn’t mean that they will not be attracted to you. There are some lovely men out here who can look past the superficial, especially when he is met with a woman full of pleasantry.
If your single and plus size as I am, take every moment that you can, to love on you, and love will keep bumping into you until that one and only true love stops you in your tracks and says, “I have waited for you all my life, and I want to go the rest of the distance with you as my wife”. Do what it is that you do; be a mover and a shaker, do not let your weight be an issue; just change it, if you have an issue with it yourself. Know this, if a gorgeous man with good intentions is approaching you then, obviously, your weight is not keeping him from taking notice of you; so do not make it an issue. TRANSFORM, RENEW, REVAMP, REPOSITION YOURSELF into the authentic woman you KNOW YOU already are. I promise you, the beauty will be in the process, the progress and in the wait! Don’t Rush it, let God do it! If you let God do it; you will not lose.
P.S. Don’t sit in the house because more than likely Mr. Right is not going to knock on your door.
Live Life Well and Be Blessed. Michelle E. Alford, CHLC, CLC –http://www.livinglifewellwithmichelle.com – Radio host of the “Living Life Well With Michelle Show” on WDRJ 1440 AM – Detroit tune in each Monday morning at 10:30 AM EST from your cars, homes, offices, androids, blackberries, computers, on anywhere you can stream live. Call my company Me-A-Happy Lifecoaching @ 734-288-7189 for your life coaching services. My book Motivation By the Book available only on my website or my publishing site: http://www.livinglifewellpublishing.comand stay tuned for my next upcoming book “Spirituality – The link to the Love and Liberty in My Life.”
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